There is no forever without always. There is no way to gain the riches of commitment without committing. You can have great friendships but you need to be a great friend. You can have deep connections but you need to connect deeply. You can have a life together but you have to give them your … Continue reading This is what it costs to live a great life
We all want to make smart decisions. And you can, by living in the tension. Now I'm not talking about the daily decisions like eating a sandwich or salad (get the half and half, of course), or to like a photo on Instagram or not. Let's talk about big decisions, like looking for a new … Continue reading This is how you make better decisions
The best way to improve ourselves is to improve the way we think. I recently read a great book about culture called What You Do Is Who You Are (affiliate). It drew from some amazing events and people that showed how actions are what actually form culture. Not thought, philosophies, ideas, values, but cold hard … Continue reading This is one of the best ways to think
You’re not behind. You’re right where you need to be. Just because so and so got that amazing title in their 20’s, or grew their business, published their book, got married, had kids, and did their thing before you did, that doesn’t mean you’re behind. You’re on your own track. You have your own story. Look … Continue reading Feel behind in life? You needn’t
On an episode of the Tim Ferriss Show, one of his guests, Ramit Sethi, talked about prenuptial agreements, or prenups, which are contracts signed before people get married that dictate rights to property and what happens after there is a divorce. They were both in favor of them. It was interesting. I don't mean that … Continue reading Have you ever considered a prenup?
We become like the people with whom we surround ourselves. We are social creatures and can be influenced. We are more easily influenced than we think. I am. Who do you want to be? Do you have dreams? Aspire to something greater? You can achieve it. Whatever it is, it will require pursuit. Find the … Continue reading Do this to become the person you want to be
My wife was in our bathtub laboring. I was beside her doing my best to help. Our baby was crowning, and no one was there to help. We were two new parents having a baby in our condo, on our own. True story. But let’s back up and fill in what occurred beforehand. My wife, … Continue reading A story: Our baby was born at home, and we were alone
I used to think time was an abundant resource, almost limitless. Then I did this. I broke forty years down. There are 478 months, or 2086 weeks, or 14,600 days, or 350,400 hours in four decades. And I'm in my forties and assuming that I live to my early 80's that's how much time … Continue reading Want to make the most of your time? Do this.
The first few years of our marriage were terrible. We fought--a lot. It was raw, ugly and unending. We both contributed to the dysfunction. Our fights were almost always around my fear of getting my heart broken and rejected, so I would reject her first to protect myself (I had a broken engagement when I … Continue reading Why I wanted to leave my marriage but didn’t