To love the life you have, you must live a life of love. It’s easy to buy into the idea that the more we possess like money, homes, stuff, the happier we will be, but that’s not true. Being rich doesn’t make you feel rich. There’s always someone richer to make you feel poorer. And…More
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The most important thing that should matter to you
What matters, really? Your life does. The very fact you get to breathe, wake up, chit chat with your neighbors is paramount. Without it everything else wouldn’t matter. Another thing that matters are relationships, getting to be with loved ones, the people who really love you and whom you love—for whom you would die—and know.…More
One of the best friends you should have
We are often our own worst enemy because we haven’t learned how to be our own greatest friend: We criticize ourselves when we should encourage, rage against when we should extend peace, yell at when we should listen, hate when we should love. We shouldn’t just be kind to ourselves; we need to support and…More
Are you living for the right person?
We all live for people. But are you living for the right person? Maybe you became a buttoned-up lawyer because your parents “made” you, when you really wanted to be an artist in paint-covered jeans, flicking the perfect strokes like Bob Ross, but it was too “impractical.” Now, you’re miserable. Or, maybe you’re feeling frantic…More
This is what it costs to live a great life
There is no forever without always. There is no way to gain the riches of commitment without committing. You can have great friendships but you need to be a great friend. You can have deep connections but you need to connect deeply. You can have a life together but you have to give them your…More
This is how you make better decisions
We all want to make smart decisions. And you can, by living in the tension. Now I’m not talking about the daily decisions like eating a sandwich or salad (get the half and half, of course), or to like a photo on Instagram or not. Let’s talk about big decisions, like looking for a new…More
This is the best way to transform the world around you
The bus was taking forever. And it wasn’t just cold; it was windy, not like a gentle breeze. It was gusty, which is common in New York City. At least it was sunny. But we were still shivering while on 14th Street and 9th Ave surrounded by people who looked like arctic adventurers with the…More
This is one of the best ways to think
The best way to improve ourselves is to improve the way we think. I recently read a great book about culture called What You Do Is Who You Are (affiliate). It drew from some amazing events and people that showed how actions are what actually form culture. Not thought, philosophies, ideas, values, but cold hard…More
I want to see you happy
Your face aglow with a radiance blazing from within, rich with joy and satisfaction, is what I wish to see. May you be filled with a flourishing—not from your possessions, fulfilled with more than just things, wealth, or fame—that comes from a secret knowledge, a mysterious knowing—Love. Being loved faithfully, unwaveringly, deeply is richness that…More
Feel behind in life? You needn’t
You’re not behind. You’re right where you need to be. Just because so and so got that amazing title in their 20’s, or grew their business, published their book, got married, had kids, and did their thing before you did, that doesn’t mean you’re behind. You’re on your own track. You have your own story. Look…More
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