We become like the people with whom we surround ourselves. We are social creatures and can be influenced. We are more easily influenced than we think. I am. Who do you want to be? Do you have dreams? Aspire to something greater? You can achieve it. Whatever it is, it will require pursuit. Find the … Continue reading Do this to become the person you want to be
My wife was in our bathtub laboring. I was beside her doing my best to help. Our baby was crowning, and no one was there to help. We were two new parents having a baby in our condo, on our own. True story. But let’s back up and fill in what occurred beforehand. My wife, … Continue reading A story: Our baby was born at home, and we were alone
I used to think time was an abundant resource, almost limitless. Then I did this. I broke forty years down. There are 478 months, or 2086 weeks, or 14,600 days, or 350,400 hours in four decades. And I'm in my forties and assuming that I live to my early 80's that's how much time … Continue reading Want to make the most of your time? Do this.
I struggle with how to engage homeless people. That becomes even more complicated with my son. But, here's a short meditation of an engagement we had with a man while my son and walking in our neighborhood.
This morning I had a meeting at 9:05 AM. That wasn’t the problem. The problem was I was running behind for my meeting, and I hate being late. I've been that way since I can remember. Maybe it was caused by my mother often showing up late for me. As a result, I've worked hard … Continue reading Want to make a better first impression? Do this.
Death seems so distant, abstract, removed. Then someone close to you dies. And everything changes. My dad died when I was eight years old. He was the strongest person that I knew. He worked hard. But, he also knew how to have a great time. It was rare when friends didn't surround him. He became … Continue reading Reflections on the death of my father
The first few years of our marriage were terrible. We fought--a lot. It was raw, ugly and unending. We both contributed to the dysfunction. Our fights were almost always around my fear of getting my heart broken and rejected, so I would reject her first to protect myself (I had a broken engagement when I … Continue reading Why I wanted to leave my marriage but didn’t
My family and I moved to New York City. We had a really good life in St. Louis, an amazing place to raise a family. We were living in one of the best school districts in the nation. We had a beautiful home. We even had loving neighbors and a rich community around us. My … Continue reading Would you leave a good life to find a great one?