You are not an imposter

You’re not an imposter; you’re just in-process. You might be a father learning to parent, an employee who is progressing in your career, an entrepreneur hustling to survive, or a couple trying to forge a healthy marriage. That’s good; that’s great. Life is a process. Anytime you try something, do something, go somewhere, you’re not…More

When being imperfect can be your greatest asset

Even if you are incredibly flawed, you can still succeed and even reach great heights. You just need to be one thing: Dogged. Look at Vincent Van Gogh. For much of his life he felt like a failure, and you might be feeling like you can’t do anything right, let alone anything good. But you…More

When being foolish is the smartest thing you can do

We should be foolish more often. For the foolish are the ones who do something new, innovate, change the world.  It’s true; they do look stupid in the process. People laugh at them, criticize and mock them. “Look at so and so, doing that thing,” the critics will say, “I thought she was smart.”   But…More

What do you think about fear?

Fear is no way to live. It keeps you from doing what you want, what you should do.  It causes you to freeze when the moment calls for moving forward. You hide when revealing yourself is better. Safety is not always sound.  Sure, it protects us from risk, from possibly dying, losing.  But living in…More

Improve your life with this one simple word

“No.”  It’s hard to say it. It’s true.  We want to help everyone; we want them to like us; we don’t want them to think badly of us. So we say yes.  But the truth is that we can’t help anyone very well when we are overwhelmed. And always saying yes is overwhelming.  And that’s…More

The most exciting thing about boredom

Being bored is a gift; it’s an opportunity.  Boredom is space, freedom, capacity. It’s the ability to move around, try new things, learn, and, best of all, create.  When you’re busy, you are trapped. You have obligations, responsibilities. You have to do such and such for so and so.  When you’re bored, your time is…More

What is the greatest greatness in life?

In the process of becoming better, it’s easy to think we are greater than we really are. And it’s one of the worst mistakes we can make, touting our strengths and toting our accomplishments.  But the answer isn’t to think we are lesser than we are. That won’t do; it does no good.  For we…More

You can conquer the fear of embarrassment

The fear of embarrassment is powerful, but it doesn’t have to overpower us. But sometimes it does. I know all about that. An episode of a TV show kept me from blogging. Let me explain. Billions, a show on Showtime, has a scene where two characters were talking about another person who got fired from…More

Failure is the secret to success

Failure doesn’t have to be the end; it can be a start to something better.   Failing sucks—no doubt. It’s something we all want to avoid. And after we’ve failed, we may be tempted to quit, stop trying, hide. But that would be a mistake. For greater success is forged from the ashes of failure.  He…More