To the haters,
It’s tempting to want to hate you back. But that’s useless.
It won’t help anything. All it does is perpetuate the hate between us. And that’s foolish.
Instead, I will say that I love you. I feel for you and with you. I sense your pain.
Isn’t that what causes the hate within—the pain?
I’ve been there—full of hate and fury—and it’s contagious. You can’t help but spread it to others. It’s all you have to give; it’s what you’ve been given.
No, I will not hate you back. I will fight myself, my reactions, my need for justice, my hate. It won’t be perfect. In fact, I will be terrible at it. But I will aim to love.
For I was loved with a divine love even when I hated, rebelled, writhed.
I tasted a goodness that transcends hate and heals pain, freely offered in the Son of God.
For he was hated by those who should have loved him, rejected by those who should have embraced him, killed by those who should have worshiped him.
Love loved me when I hated him.
How can I not love you?
In the process of becoming better, it’s easy to think we are greater than we really are. And it’s one of the worst mistakes we can make, touting our strengths and toting our accomplishments.
But the answer isn’t to think we are lesser than we are. That won’t do; it does no good.
For we may be great. And we can become even better. And that isn’t accomplished by looking down on ourselves or thinking that we are unworthy or incapable. No.
So what do we do instead?
We ought to think others better than ourselves. Hold them up, serve them, care for them, and use our greatness to help them become greater than they imagined.
Service and love subdues pride.
And what is interesting is in doing that, you will find that people will tout your strengths and tote your accomplishments for you.
They will do it out of love.
And the reward you will reap may or may not be riches, but it will be fullness. You can feel whole, blessed, rich, connected.
Loving others is the greatest greatness.
At the core of every business isn’t money. It’s relationships.
Now, I don’t mean that you need to go on a business retreat and hold hands with your coworkers as you dance around a campfire singing Kumbaya. But we can be practicing ways of relating to others that build mutual respect, trust, and maybe even some love.
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Dear St. Louis,
You say such mean things about yourself. It almost sounds like you hate yourself.
Let’s talk about that, shall we?
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We become like the people with whom we surround ourselves.
We are social creatures and can be influenced. We are more easily influenced than we think. I am.
Who do you want to be? Do you have dreams? Aspire to something greater?
You can achieve it.
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I used to think time was an abundant resource, almost limitless. Then I did this.
Continue reading “Want to make the most of your time? Do this.”
When I was starting my journey as an entrepreneur, I was full of dreams, hopes, aspirations. I thought I knew what I wanted. My only hope was to succeed. It never occurred to me that I needed to think more clearly about what success really meant to me.
After a handful of years, I was leading a company with sixteen full-time employees. At the time, I believed bigger was better. I was so focused on growing revenue and headcount that I could stop to consider any other path.
Growth sounds great until you want to quit your own company. Continue reading “One of the most important questions in business”
There are days when I just want to be a stay at home dad. Yesterday was one of them.
Continue reading “When you love work and family”