When we make a mistake, we might be harsh with others. But the person we are often harshest with isn’t anyone around us. It’s ourselves.
Sure, you made a mistake. Yes, it was terrible.
But why make it worse? Why punish yourself more? The mistake is bad enough.
Let it go. Punishing yourself won’t change the past, but you can change how you treat yourself right now.
Remind yourself that this isn’t the end but only a part of the process of growing. Speak tenderly to yourself.
You aren’t your mistake. You made a mistake.
You aren’t a mistake. You’re mistaken.
Correct it now.