The key to healing a wound is to move toward the pain.
You know the relational or financial or emotional problems that happen in life. They hurt us.
But if you don’t face the uncomfortable, even agonizing conversations you don’t want to have with your partner, friend, mother, it only makes the relationship harder, unhealthier.
Or if you don’t look at your finances as they are and really dig into them, that will only make your financial future grimmer, darker.
Maybe something in your past is haunting you. Some act you did or was done to you sits on your mind, heart, burdening you. And you want to ignore it, but it only weighs you down, like an anchor, drowning you.
The only way to heal is to move toward our fears, what pains us.
It’s like a cut.
My son runs around and often get scrapes and bleeds. When that happens, he knows the next thing we are going to do. We bring him into the bathroom and clean off the wound with soap and water. He screams, cries, hates it—all of it. But if we didn’t do that, he would only have bigger problems later, get an infection, or worse.
Likewise you need to push into the pain. Even after you grimace, maybe scream, you must press into the difficult conversation, make the terrible spreadsheet, talk to a therapist. You need to face the things that scare you.
And it will be like a surgeon taking a scalpel to an infection, cleansing you, healing you. It will keep you from greater pain.
It cuts, but it heals.
You’ll feel whole.