Category Archives: mindset

The most important thing that should matter to you

What matters, really? Your life does. The very fact you get to breathe, wake up, chit chat with your neighbors is paramount. Without it everything else wouldn’t matter. Another thing that matters are relationships, getting to be with loved ones, the people who really love you and whom you love—for whom you would die—and know.…More

One simple mindset that leads to a successful life

You didn’t fail; you succeeded in trying. Don’t beat yourself up. Celebrate your courage, gumption, oomph. Now you just have to try again and again and again, remembering what you’re doing isn’t about failure, or success even. It’s about experimenting, learning, growing. It’s about living not just staying alive. So live. If you do that,…More

One of the best friends you should have

We are often our own worst enemy because we haven’t learned how to be our own greatest friend: We criticize ourselves when we should encourage, rage against when we should extend peace, yell at when we should listen, hate when we should love. We shouldn’t just be kind to ourselves; we need to support and…More

The one thing you should never do

There are times when life tries to drag you down, crush you, take you out. And you’ll want to surrender. Darkness will envelop you, swallow you whole, blind you. You will crawl, cry, pray, choke, scream. But it won’t matter. You can’t change what happened. And you’ll be tempted to think that it will always…More

You need to know that you’re more than just you

“Just” is a word we should use sparingly with ourselves. “I’m just a mom,” or “I’m just an employee,” or “I’m just a woman,” or “I’m just a child.” “Just” limits you. It strips away the potential you have, what you can reach. You aren’t just you. You are becoming, always. You are changing, growing,…More

True meaning

Meaning is like air to us. Without it we die. With it we soar like eagles. I just read this morning an author state that the universe doesn’t care about you or anything that happens on our planet or anywhere else. And that the only meaning we can conjure up in this cold hard world…More

This is what it costs to live a great life

There is no forever without always. There is no way to gain the riches of commitment without committing. You can have great friendships but you need to be a great friend. You can have deep connections but you need to connect deeply. You can have a life together but you have to give them your…More

This is how you make better decisions

We all want to make smart decisions. And you can, by living in the tension. Now I’m not talking about the daily decisions like eating a sandwich or salad (get the half and half, of course), or to like a photo on Instagram or not. Let’s talk about big decisions, like looking for a new…More

This is the best way to transform the world around you

The bus was taking forever. And it wasn’t just cold; it was windy, not like a gentle breeze. It was gusty, which is common in New York City. At least it was sunny. But we were still shivering while on 14th Street and 9th Ave surrounded by people who looked like arctic adventurers with the…More