You are not an imposter

You’re not an imposter; you’re just in-process.

You might be a father learning to parent, an employee who is progressing in your career, an entrepreneur hustling to survive, or a couple trying to forge a healthy marriage. That’s good; that’s great.

Life is a process.

Anytime you try something, do something, go somewhere, you’re not going to be an expert, specialist, authority, master.

And it’s easy to feel like you don’t belong, like you’re “faking it.” But you’re not.

For anyone to become a master, you have to be a beginner. You have to muddle through, practice, attempt, fail, then try again and improve.

You’re in-process.

There’s nothing more real than that.

Even experts still need to learn and feel like imposters, because we’re all continuing to learn, grow, and become.

See, to do anything, everyone is an “imposter.” Everyone is between a beginner and expert, student and teacher, birth and death.

And that’s a great place to be. That’s where the adventure is, learnings are found, discoveries are made—life is lived.

So just because you don’t know as much as you want to or feel out of your depth or lack clarity on the future, that doesn’t make you lesser.

It just means you’re on a great journey to better things.

The key is to keep moving forward.


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This is the best way to succeed

Failure isn’t an event; it’s a state of mind. No one is truly a failure unless they give up.

I’m not talking about quitting because sometimes you need to quit in order to succeed. Not every venture is worth your time: Sometimes you try something and you find that it’s not working, so it’s good to quit.

To “give up” or failure means that you surrender to the difficulties of life and resign to the sense that “You can’t do it,” any of it—life.

But if you’re still trying and kicking, you aren’t that. You’re just in process.

The key now is to keep at it.

Did you know that Colonel Sanders (a real person) of Kentucky Fried Chicken, didn’t start his famous “finger lickin’ good” franchise until he was in his sixties?

Yeah—true story.

Before getting in the chicken business, he worked all kinds of jobs. And he was a piece of work, ornery and difficult to deal with. He was even fired for knocking out his co-workers.

But he never gave up. He kept going even though he was older, at an age when he should have been thinking about retirement. But he didn’t retire. He fought. Not just with his fists, but he carried on with his mind, gumption, capital, life.

If you keep on living, trying, fighting, you always have a chance of climbing, growing, succeeding.

Keep that in mind and put that into practice and you can’t help but succeed.


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Gain More Gratitude by Doing This

He asked for $50.

This week my friend told me a story that broke my heart. The man who mowed my friend’s lawn, came up after he finished his work and told him that he really needed money and asked if he could borrow some. He needed $50.

Could you imagine working up the courage, the shame inducing gumption, to ask for that? Not $100,000, $10,000, or $1,000, not even $100. It was 50.

My friend held out the money and said, “Take it, but, please, don’t worry about paying it back.”

I’m writing this not to make you feel bad. It’s just to raise the awareness of the utter pain, stress, and agony that is going on in the world (which I was barely aware of until I heard a few stories recently, including the one I just told).

If you have more than many, then you should give to those who have less.

That will not only change your mindset of thinking you don’t have enough; it will remind you of how much you really have.

Giving to others makes us grateful.


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This is one of the best ways to look at life

Cascading down a lush green knoll, blanketed by wildflowers, you run free, without care and full of mirth, breathing in joy and exhaling love: You live.

Slowing your strides to a saunter, you drink in the beauty that embraces you, enveloped in serenity, bathed in light, wrapped in love. There is no one with you, yet you feel the communion, as birds sing and creation flutters around you, dancing among you with each step.

You wander, wondering not for the destination, but for the grace of being—here, now. You are present, aware of the goodness without and within. It’s like drinking in the warmth you feel when you first walk into your home from playing in the snow, and loving hands give you a freshly made mug of hot chocolate—deliciously loved.

Pause in the hustle of life. Drink in these moments; sip them down. Savor them. With lovers, colleagues, strangers, or alone, look around and enjoy the moment—and rejoice.

You are alive.

This is the way to become greater

You have greatness inside of you.

It’s there. But it does not speak in a loud, clear voice—but in a purr—slight sensations reverberating in your spirit.

It beckons you to do the right thing, help that person in need, go above and beyond—love fiercely.

Attune your heart to hear its call. For that is what it does. It calls you to become more than what you are, to go towards who you were meant to be.

Do that by facing your fears, taking the harder path, pushing yourself to grow.

Yes, that greater version will respond. It will awaken the lion within you.

Listen for its rumbling; feel its tremor.

Let it guide you.

And you will roar.

To succeed you need to know this

Failure is a part of the process of succeeding. You can’t have one without the other.

So don’t despair when you don’t see the results you want, make a mistake on that project, or fail to find the right answer.

Learn from it. Grow from it.

Walk away stronger, smarter, better, and persist in pushing forward. Whether you go in the same direction or not, persevere.

For, success is less about succeeding and more about learning how to fail.

If you do that, you can’t help but succeed.

This is one of the smartest things you can do

It’s easy to feel stupid when you’re trying something new. But you’re not.

I’ve been there. I felt that when I started this blog, my businesses, and pretty much every other venture I’ve tried.

But you are not stupid for trying. It would be stupid not to.

There are too many people who’ve lived halfhearted lives and die with wholehearted regrets.

That needn’t be you. I hope it isn’t.

It’s avoided by refusing to listen to that voice calling you dumb. Then you step off the well-worn paths of life and walk your way.

It’s often the smartest thing you can do.

Do you know how valuable your time is?

No matter how much you can charge per hour, $1000 or $10, your time is precious.

It’s the one resource you will pine for most at the end of your life. Money, houses, or stuff won’t be what you want, no—it’s more time.

Don’t just spend it well; invest it wisely. Consider your hours thoughtfully. See them as an asset to allocate strategically.

Create work. Produce things that will make you proud. Cultivate relationships, bless others. Go deep with people. Commit. Love.

If you do, you will see a return on your investment, not only in cash, but human flourishing that can live beyond your life.

Do you know how powerful your words are?

What we say to ourselves shapes us.

The words you use form the way you think, and the way you think changes how you behave, and the way you behave affects how you live, and the way you live can transform your life.

Well-chosen words breathe hope into us when our spirits are broken, revive us when our bodies are weary, brighten our eyes when our faces are downcast.

The right word can redeem the wrong we feel, make us stronger than we know, and give us flight after a hard landing.

So choose your words wisely, friends.

And soar.


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Remember, you don’t improve without improving your thinking.

You don’t have to be a billionaire to feel rich.

You don’t have to be popular to feel loved.

You don’t have to get awards to feel successful.

Success starts in between your ears. And it’s not just about what you think. It’s about how you think.

It’s not just about thinking better thoughts. It’s about thinking thoughts better.

That’s why I write.

You can make today a better day

Don’t let the day make you. You can make the day.

Today isn’t fixed, set, immovable. You can change it, mold it, move it.

Yes, you can’t manipulate time. It’s immovable–unstoppable.

But you can start to arrange how you spend your time.

What you do with your hours, minutes, and seconds is in your hands, sitting in your fingertips, ready to be molded, made.

You’re not a captive to your circumstances; you’re a captain of your time.

What will you do? How will you spend it? Or better yet, how will you invest it?

You are allocating your time to the activities you do, the people you see, the habits you form. They all require time to keep them going. You may not even be aware that you sacrifice minutes, hours, days, months, years, a lifetime.

Should you invest in those things? If not, you can change that, today, now.

And what about your thoughts?

Are you always worrying, stressing, angry? Does the murky future consume your mind? Or are you focusing on the small things you can do right now to reach a larger goal? If not, you can.

You should.

Today isn’t a battle to be fought but an opportunity to be taken.

Every moment is another chance to do something differently, better. Those moments are yours.

Revel in them. Celebrate them.

Make them.


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Remember, you don’t improve without improving your thinking.

You don’t have to be a billionaire to feel rich.

You don’t have to be popular to feel loved.

You don’t have to get awards to feel successful.

Success starts in between your ears. And it’s not just about what you think. It’s about how you think.

It’s not just about thinking better thoughts. It’s about thinking thoughts better.

That’s why I write.