Don’t be true to yourself; be true to the truth. “Be authentic.” We hear it all of the time. It’s about being true to yourself. But often, being ourselves is the last thing we should be. Often we can be awful. We make mistakes, fail others, hurt our loved ones. I mean, sometimes, I’m a…More
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To live your best life, be wrong more
Often we worry about being right. But I think we should be spending more time being wrong. Because sometimes, in life, being wrong is the most right you can be. This sounds strange, I know. But that doesn’t mean it’s false. You see, we live in a world that is obsessed with being right. The…More
Endings are new beginnings
By embracing the end, you will start to see new beginnings. Sure, some endings are good, like getting out of a bad job or unhealthy relationships, etc. But I’m not talking about that. I’m talking about the things we don’t want to end, the ones that aren’t good. It can be as trivial as a…More
One of the best ways to stay motivated
Many of us push ourselves to stay motivated. We force, cajole, pressure, sometimes even yell at ourselves to get going. But pushing yourself isn’t as effective as being pulled. I don’t mean being yanked or dragged like a prisoner, no. I mean something summoning you by an irresistible force, like being in love, where you’re…More
Use your mind to change your brain: changing your temperament
We all have aspects of ourselves, our temperament, that we wish we could change. Me—I’ve had a temper all of my life. It can get ugly. But that’s not the most interesting part. What is is that it has changed, improved as I’ve aged. I get angry less and with less intensity. I ultimately attribute…More
Blog change
If we don’t evolve, we die. Or, at least, we stagnate. That also goes for this blog. So, I’m shaking things up. For a while now I’ve felt like I’m not giving you my very best with my writing here. Sorry. But it’s true. And now, I want to do something about it. I’ve wanted…More
Permission to live
Give yourself permission to fail, to overreach, to try. Give yourself permission to be imperfect, wrong, weird. Give yourself permission to do that thing you love, pursue your dream, take a different path. I’m not saying to do anything wrong or immoral. I’m just saying that there are a lot of things that are good…More
We started a podcast
So…a friend and I started a podcast. There’s a lot of confessing, challenging, a bit of conflict, and a touch of cussing. But most of all it’s a conversation between friends. This project grew out of years of relationship and talking about our ventures and missteps and learnings and stories. And we want to share…More
Cookies, covid, and a confession
Three words likely have never been seen together, but there they are, in the title, all alliterated, and weird. Let me explain. A couple of weeks ago we shipped the most amount of cookies since the start of our Clean Cookie Company, but covid slowed our shipments; and we’ve got to own the fact that…More
One of the best ways to deal with uncertainty
Uncertainty is everywhere. And the best thing we can do isn’t fight it, try to force things to happen—control. No. Sometimes the best thing we can do is just do this—surrender. That’s not the same as giving up. You’re not quitting. Absolutely not! Surrendering is different. It’s not giving up; it’s giving in. And that’s…More
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