You are more valuable than you think you are, believe you are. Even with all of your mistakes, guilt, shame, sin, flaws, and failures, you are worth more than all of the gold in the world. The people who told you you are worthless lied to you. They spoke out of their shame and lack…More
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How change can make the best of you now
Change is scary. But we can learn to face it and turn it to our advantage. The reason we fear change is because we can’t control it. It often happens to us. And we see it as adversarial: Change is the enemy and is messing with my life. Change is changing what I don’t want…More
What do you think about fear?
Fear is no way to live. It keeps you from doing what you want, what you should do. It causes you to freeze when the moment calls for moving forward. You hide when revealing yourself is better. Safety is not always sound. Sure, it protects us from risk, from possibly dying, losing. But living in…More
A love poem to the haters
To the haters, It’s tempting to want to hate you back. But that’s useless. It won’t help anything. All it does is perpetuate the hate between us. And that’s foolish. Instead, I will say that I love you. I feel for you and with you. I sense your pain. Isn’t that what causes the hate…More
Improve your life with this one simple word
“No.” It’s hard to say it. It’s true. We want to help everyone; we want them to like us; we don’t want them to think badly of us. So we say yes. But the truth is that we can’t help anyone very well when we are overwhelmed. And always saying yes is overwhelming. And that’s…More
The most exciting thing about boredom
Being bored is a gift; it’s an opportunity. Boredom is space, freedom, capacity. It’s the ability to move around, try new things, learn, and, best of all, create. When you’re busy, you are trapped. You have obligations, responsibilities. You have to do such and such for so and so. When you’re bored, your time is…More
What is the greatest greatness in life?
In the process of becoming better, it’s easy to think we are greater than we really are. And it’s one of the worst mistakes we can make, touting our strengths and toting our accomplishments. But the answer isn’t to think we are lesser than we are. That won’t do; it does no good. For we…More
You can conquer the fear of embarrassment
The fear of embarrassment is powerful, but it doesn’t have to overpower us. But sometimes it does. I know all about that. An episode of a TV show kept me from blogging. Let me explain. Billions, a show on Showtime, has a scene where two characters were talking about another person who got fired from…More
Failure is the secret to success
Failure doesn’t have to be the end; it can be a start to something better. Failing sucks—no doubt. It’s something we all want to avoid. And after we’ve failed, we may be tempted to quit, stop trying, hide. But that would be a mistake. For greater success is forged from the ashes of failure. He…More
Suffering is one of the best ways to find meaning
Suffering defines us, but we get to choose its definition. That’s what Victor Frankl, a holocaust survivor, psychiatrist, and author of Man’s Search for Meaning (affiliate link) wanted us to know. He told his story of suffering and survival, from a personal perspective but also as a psychiatrist. It was sad, but, more than that,…More
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