“You don’t belong here,” or “These people are better than you,” are words that can creep into our minds. But they shouldn’t. There are times in our lives and careers when we feel like imposters, sneaking into a room full of “worthier” people than ourselves, wondering how we got here. But you’re not an imposter!…More
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This is the way you can succeed
Failing doesn’t mean you’re a failure. That’s a definition that is determined by you, not by your failures, mistakes, or even others. You make that decision every day by choosing what you do with your time, energy, talent. Get up and decide to learn from your failures and continue marching forward, trying this and that…More
Feel hated? You need to know this
Sometimes you feel cursed, diseased, abandoned, betrayed when you try to live courageously, greatly. But you are not alone. Some people hate me, despise me, think me despicable, talk behind my back, consider me bad. And some of them even smile at me, tell me they love me, hug me, and wish me well. But…More
One of the most surprising things about love
Love cannot be forced. It can only be found, discovered, like a jewel unearthed. You may feel unlovable. You may feel unloved. But, love is there, waiting–waiting for you–longing to embrace you as much as you long to be embraced. Wait for it. Often, it finds us when we least expect it. When we stop…More
An important thing I learned from being laughed at
Everyone laughed, and I was the butt of the joke. I hated it. But I realized something about life. A group of us sat around a large circular dining table, and a newly married couple started talking about how they met. It was a great story with surprising twists and turns. And then a guy…More
The truth you need to know about your pain
Pain. It marks and makes us. The death of a loved one, the breaking of love, the broken promises, the promising future never realized, the realization that your body won’t stop aching…causes us great grief; but they often act as the compass of life, directing us to our true north. Who would we be without…More
One of the most important people we forget to be kind to
Be kind to yourself today. You might have screwed up, but you’re not a screwup. You might have made a mistake, but you aren’t a mistake. You are worthy. You are lovable. You are beautiful. Punishing yourself will not right the wrong. That would only add to it. Forgive yourself. Let it go. Move forward. …More
Today is the most powerful day you have
Today you can start changing your life. Right now. This moment. The career change you wanted to make, the life partner you wanted to find, the blog you’ve talked about starting, today you can do something about them. The past needn’t define you. The present is everyone’s opportunity to redefine themselves. The future is too…More
One of the best ways to become happy
More. It’s one of the greatest lies there is. More money, more sex, more friends, more cars, more education, more this, more that will help me be happy, fulfilled, feel better about myself. But it never does. Yes, More can bring happiness. But it’s there; then it’s not. It’s a flash, a moment. Then it’s…More
One of the most powerful things you can do for yourself: Forgive
We all make mistakes, and we forgive others. But often forgiving ourselves is harder. But we must. Do you know what I’m talking about? It’s that thing you did or continue doing that you can’t release and forgive yourself. Instead, you punish. I know all about that. Defiance marked my teenage face, as I screamed…More
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